Everything is connected to your purpose (yes, even the bad stuff)
Everything is connected to your purpose. I heard a quote that really stuck with me and it goes, “the universe is conspiring to give you everything you’ve ever wanted.” This means, that when I’m spazzing out in worry or disbelief, I’m only making it harder for myself to see what has already been laid out in front of me. Do you ever look back on your life to a time where something could have went really bad, but somehow you were saved from it getting any worse? You think to yourself, “wow, something was really looking out for me…”, wether it be god, the universe or a stroke of luck. It’s no coincidence you were saved.
Lately, I’ve been putting myself through the ringer. Everything I’ve tried so hard to stay away from for the last year, I invited right back into my life in a matter of a few months. Everything from toxic relationships to bad habits, I welcomed back into my life with open arms. And I ask myself, why? And I answer, I think the universe is trying to teach me something. You see, I invited old relationships and bad habit patterns back into my life because they were familiar. I wanted comfort, I wanted to feel in control.
Because the truth is, when you’re on the road to finding your purpose, it doesn’t look like any road you’ve ever seen before. And that can be scary. And it can be lonely. And the universe knows that you feel this way, so it will give you those things momentarily, so that you can see and learn on your own that it doesn’t align anymore. And that those things that were once comforting are actually messy and chaotic. And it distracts you, so that it can teach you.
For instance, I’ve been talking to an old fling. I know for a fact, this guy isn’t ready for what I’m ready for. We don’t have the same beliefs or morals. He admits that he’s not a one-woman kind of guy. And all he does is trigger my inner-wounded child into fight or flight mode. I start fearing abandonment. And this leads me to a road of lusting after love and attention. And it completely distracts me from my goals. And I’m like why do I keep doing this to myself? But it comes back to, what is this trying to teach me? And sometimes, it’s what is this trying to teach me for the tenth time?
When you become sensitive enough to notice these triggers and the feeling it gives your body, it’s a sign from the universe. The universe is telling me, I know you still want to fight for that, but look at how it makes you feel. It makes you feel unorganized, your emotions are sporadic, and you feel feelings of unworthiness. But you’re worthy! And I’ll let you put your hand in the fire just so you can get burned. Cause most times, getting burned teaches us our greatest lessons.
The universe is constantly showing you signs. And your intuition is there to help guide you. You have this connection with the universe that is unexplainable. And when you feel something, the universe knows it. And when you think something, the universe hears it. And when your actions don’t align, the universe see’s it. The universe will flip you on your head to get you back on track. But it’s all in the perception, because many people will say, “argh! The universe hates me! I got flipped on my back!”
When you’re in the mindset of, “the universe is conspiring to give me everything I’ve ever wanted.” you start to ask yourself, what is the universe trying to tell me? What is it trying to teach me? What can I do to get out of its way? How am I causing the resistance in my own life?
I genuinely feel like the universe is teaching me something when I go back to old toxic relationships or bad habits, because it wants to show me the contrast between the new and the old. It wants to show me the effects on how I feel, how I eat and how I sleep at night. For instance, something traumatic happened in my life and I was super anxious and experiencing panic attacks for about 2 weeks. I couldn’t eat, sleep or breathe (my breathe was very shallow). Because I had so much going on in my mind, I was extremely restless. But the universe was like nope, I’m going to slow you all the way down and I got sick. When it all starts to go sour, the universe wants me to taste it, so I can get back on track. The universe wants to save me, by allowing me to experience what I think I want. So that I can say for sure, that I no longer want it. It redirects me.
When you want to go fast, the universe will put things in place to make you go slow if it’s not time for you to go fast. If you’re going too slow, the universe will put things in place to make you go fast, if it’s time for you to move. You have to pay attention to the signs and not get lost in the mindset of “everything is going wrong”, because everything might just be going right!
That’s all I have to say. A small message from me to you. From me to myself. Cause we all need the reminder sometimes. Just remember, that what’s for you will always be for you. What’s for you will never miss you. And sometimes what we think we want, we don’t actually need. And somewhere down the line, you’ll see it’s a blessing that you didn’t get what you thought wanted.
With love,
The girl that’s getting unstuck
